Carry On When The Worst Happened
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Life has a way of throwing obstacles on your path. Some are small and easy to avoid. But others can shatter the peace of your routine forever. You know the kind of things we’re talking about. Think of your cozy and happy family life. The worst that could happen would be to disrupt the comfort of your routine irremediably. Few events are as traumatic as losing someone you love. For everyone, it’s as if their worst fear came true. It throws you off balance and makes you question everything. But it also leaves you feeling stranded and unable to carry on. Is there room for life when the worst happens?
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The answer is yes. There is still plenty to live for, even when the worst happens to your family. The path of recovery is not going to be easy or smooth. But you have no choice but to carry on for the sake of your family and your own sake. Nobody can tell you for sure where your grief will take you. But if you are to allow yourself space to grieve, you need to let go of your stress, fears, and anger. When the worst happens, you have to help your mind and body to relax; otherwise, you won’t be able to cope.
The first lesson you learn is about anxiety
You might not have been a nervous person before, but the shock of losing someone could create a well of anxiety in your mind. You become worried about every possible thing. For a lot of people who have experienced sudden and difficult grief, it’s not uncommon to develop symptoms that are similar to anxiety or even PTSD disorder. You constantly worry about the next worst thing that could happen and how events could escalate. You can’t grieve when your mind is in a perpetual state of panic. You need to learn to unwind and build up your inner peace. It’s a work in progress more often than not. You can identify triggers for your panic spells, which can help you to rationalize things and change your habits. Meditation can be a useful tool too.
Money is not a dirty word
Worrying about money is understandable when your family life is thrown apart. Losing someone close who contributed to the household income can make things difficult, not only emotionally but financially too. There’s no shame in discussing money problems openly, especially with specialists who can get the most out of your settlement for a wrongful death case, for example. You can’t put a price on your pain. But you can quantify what your family needs to make ends meet. It will ease your fears about managing family life on your own, and, ultimately, help you grieve.
Create a routine
Loss destroys the routine you created in your life. Therefore, you need to build a new routine that can help you to bring grief closer. Running is a fantastic coping mechanism. When things are getting too hard in life, you can find that endurance sports help you to feel in control again. It makes you understand how strong you can be. Therefore, building a routine around sports keeps you not only healthy but also emotionally balanced.
The worst is not always going to hit you every day. But one day, it might just happen. Therefore, understanding that you need to create space to allow yourself to grief is detrimental to your mental and physical health.
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